Your life’s love. A soul mate. Your life companion. that unique person. Many of us, whether we admit it or not, are looking for our ideal match. We yearn for a companion by our side, someone who will accept us despite our flaws and cherish our life’s memories. It’s been depicted in enough movies for us to assume that it is plausible.

You can stop looking for a perfect “10” who meets every requirement on your wish list because love is not a fairy tale. However, you can find someone to support you, brave the chaos of the world with you, and enable you to live life to the fullest.

How can the foundation for this kind of love be laid in your life? To help you get started, consider these tips:

Find the parts of yourself that are missing instead of looking for your soul mate.
Contrary to what you might think, this is exactly how I met my husband. After a two-year relationship that I had thought was “the one” ended, I stopped looking for “the one.” I made the decision to focus inward in order to understand and accept who I am, to mend old wounds, and to discover and cultivate new aspects of myself.

Prior to this, I believed that in order to feel fulfilled and loved, I needed to be with someone. It hurt so bad to break up with my ex-boyfriends because it felt like I was being torn away from a piece of who I was.

Be genuine.

You must first emphasise who you truly are if you want to find real love. You must be prepared to love someone else through their imperfections before asking them to love you through your flaws. Be honest with yourself so that you are prepared to receive honesty from others.
What truly brings you joy? What do you truly desire from life? It’s simple to fall into a pattern of doing what other people think is “normal” or “popular” at the time. You are not being your true self if you change your personality, passions, or purpose to please someone else. Genuineness appeals to people. Learn to act and speak authentically by getting to know and loving yourself.

Live your life the way you want to.
I began to live a life that was meaningful to me once I began to learn more about myself and follow my own path. I stopped adhering to others’ expectations of how I should act and behave.

This may disappoint some of your loved ones, including your family. However, you must fulfil yourself in order to find fulfilment in life—not another person! Doing what is right for you also puts you in situations, occupations, and proximity to people who share your values and who support your life goals.

Be assured. Be self-assured about who you are, your choices, and your capacity to draw love into your life. This assurance will glow from you in a sense of self-worth if you are being your truest, best self. Someone who understands, values, and loves who you will be drawn to you.
Encourage this confidence by realising that just by existing, you are whole and complete. Recognize that while having a soul mate would be ideal, it is not necessary. You alone are sufficient.

Be receptive. You must be willing to connect and be open with those around you if you want to meet new people. Be prepared to converse if the person in line behind you in the coffee shop starts a conversation. Practice openness even if they are not going to be your true love. You’ll be able to facilitate iterations that might result in long-lasting relationships by cultivating this energy of openness.